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We’re in tough times, but we’re in the best of places. The irony is, now’s not the time to be ‘positive’, because you must test ‘negative’ to travel and survive, writes Ruta Mave.
My maternal grandmother died aged 99.5, my paternal
grandmother aged 94, and my great grandmother buried at Ngatangiia reached 92
years. I tell my kids, it’s in the genes, so count on me being around a while.
What my Nana’s saw in their lifetimes the changes they
welcomed and endured, the wars, poverty, depression and inventions, is
astounding. In the movie Back to the Future, McFly, travels to the year 2015
where they have hoverboards, and cars that are fueled by rubbish, well, here we
are still using fossil fuels, even though technology has existed for years to
run engines off water.
What changes will we see if we last to the best part of a
Betty White, an American actress and comedian, is turning
99, with 80 years spent in the TV, film industry. She’s an advocate for living
your best life and spreading positivity, saying “you’re never too old to do
anything” – that staying young comes from laughter. Her philosophy is “act
bubbly every day… drink bubbly every birthday” plus “you need eight hours
beauty sleep, nine, if you’re ugly”. When questioned, does desire melt away
with age, she replies “I’m still waiting for that day to come. I may be a
senior, but so what, I’m still hot”.
Is life that simple, having a good attitude? With the world
facing major restrictions with the Covid pandemic seemingly out of control,
people forced into their homes 24/7, many having lost their jobs, income and
poised to lose their homes, can you easily remain upbeat and optimistic. My
Nana’s lived through the post WW1 Spanish influenza that lasted two years and
infected approximately 500 million people and estimated 50 million deaths. So
far, Covid-19 is up to 95 million infected and 2 million deaths. They lived
through the economic Great Depression where 20 million lost their jobs with
little or no government assistance.
It’s worth taking stock of ourselves in our little paradise
and think things aren’t so bad. Looking forward what innovations can we expect
to see? In the 70s, I remember getting a colour TV, then the Atari game
shuttlecock, what fun. Computers were still as large as houses and phones were
connected to an actual line stuck in the wall.
When my 10-year-old wanted a mobile phone, I’m like ‘hey, I
didn’t get my first phone until I was 30 years old’. She asked why, ‘Nan
wouldn’t let me have one’, I had to reply because it wasn’t invented then! Now,
instead of the large brick block I carried around, they essentially have mini
satellite computers, to rival that of Star Trek Enterprise. How will we handle
new technology? I’m still a dinosaur on the phone, excel, apps and Bluetooth.
When people suggest to Betty White how with social media she
can keep in contact with friends, using Facebook and Twitter, her reply is “at
my age if I want to contact my old friend’s I’d need a Ouija board”.
When you think closely, technology has brought all things
‘magical’ into reality, Facetiming someone across the world is like ‘beam me up
scotty’ stuff when we were growing up, zoom meetings look like the opening to
The Brady Bunch, or Sesame Street closing.
It’s just a matter of time before we can, ‘disparate’ but would you try
it? You might end up in Diagon Alley if you get it wrong.
Getting old has never been a problem for Betty, she
believes, “The older you get, the better you get. Unless you’re a banana,”
getting older there’s a process of loss. After three marriages, Betty is
single, but she says, “I’ve always liked older men, they’re just more
attractive to me, of course at my age there aren’t that many left”. Even with
her positivity she’s realistic about age “If you catch me talking to an empty
chair, it’s time to up my meds.”
The past century has shown women change their position in
the world the most. Women work in all industries, including military, and vote
with some leading large countries. Women have shown they’re a force to be
reckoned with, all this achievement, while still producing children, homes and
baking for fundraisers. Betty says
“women are like butterflies – we may look pretty and delicate, but baby, we can
fly through a hurricane.”
Her belief in the power of women, their strength and
resilience in face of tough times is best quoted as “Why do people say ‘grow
some balls?’ Balls are weak and sensitive. If you wanna be tough, grow a
vagina. Those things can take a pounding”.
We’re in tough times, but we’re in the best of places, the
irony is, now’s not the time to be ‘positive’, because you must test ‘negative’
to travel and survive.